Respect yourself .. you will be Respected

Respect is your most powerful management tool for instilling good classroom discipline. But you have to do it right.

It starts with you

You are the leader in the class and if you do not have respect then it will not happen elsewhere.

Respect yourself

Respect starts within you. It requires that you first respect yourself (it is surprising how many people do not). Self-respect can be very hard, especially for those who have not been respected in the past (and especially their childhood).

Do you respect your body? Do you eat moderately and take exercise? Do you respect your mind? Do you keep learning and challenging yourself? When you make a mistake do you accept your error and seek to improve? Or do you excuse or berate yourself?

Many people tell themselves off in the voice of a parent or former teacher. Then they turn that voice on others.

If necessary, get help to straighten out your self-image. This can seem scary but can also pay dividends.

Respect them

This is also hard, especially when the act in ways that frustrate and annoy you. It is easy to see them as not deserving respect. Yet if you can transcend this position, a teacher's respect of their pupils is a most powerful tool.

Most certainly, if you do not respect them, then they will be unlikely to respect them, and the more disrespect you show them the more disrespect they will show you. Respect is a reciprocal thing.

Just as your respect of the children needs that you respect yourself, so also does this apply to the children. Those who do not often lack self-respect, and if you do not respect them it can only make things worse. Teach them to respect themselves first by respecting them.

A simple rule is to start each lesson afresh. Put the past in the past and assume that each child that walks through the door deserves your respect. Sure, respect can be earned and lost, but starting with disrespect is a road to classroom hell.

It reaches between them

Respect is not just a thing between you and them. They should respect one another. If they respect one another, then this is a platform for respecting you and for a disciplined classroom.

Disrespect is one of the roots of bullying, and if you hear children destructively criticizing one another or abusing their bodies or property, then there is likely little respect going on there.

Those who do not respect others often do not respect themselves. The seek respect by demanding it, yet it is never enough when that internal voice denies it. This is frustrating and can boil over into anger at others and they may seek to 'steal' respect. This of course only seeks to reduce the overall respect in the classroom making teaching more and more difficult.

Make respect an important classroom rule. Expect them to respect one another and respond when they do not. Engage them in an early conversation about what respect is, and how it is a basic right (and is right). Everyone wants to be respected and this is an easy first step to wider respect.

It ends with you

When you respect yourself and them, and when they respect one another, it is a small step for them to respect you.

The opposite of respect is contempt, which is a powerful poison. Drive it out by with relentless respect and expectation of respect. The result will be respectful class in which true learning can happen.

Act as if you deserve respect. When you do not get it, require it. Do not let it pass you by. Never accept lack of respect, let alone any form of contempt. When respect is the rule, you are both the model and the ultimate

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What is the importance of the camera?!

When it comes to people who like photo shooting, they should ideally take their cameras everywhere. This way, they by no means miss a chance to take a fantastic picture. Suppose you’re out for a walk, and you see a really glorious sunset. You’re struck by the beauty of it all, and yet you’re kicking yourself because you don’t have your camera. You whip out your hand phone and take a picture, but of course that wouldn’t do justice to it. This case could have been avoided had you had your camera with you. That’s why if you like photograph shooting, you must carry your digital camera everywhere so that you could take nice shots anywhere, anytime.

Those that like picture shooting should also carry tripods. That is only feasible if you have a car. Nonetheless, if you don’t have a tripod, you could use a make-shift one, so as to stabilize your camera. You can use make-shift tripods like beanbags, sandbags, and even rice pads. If you have a passion for picture shooting, you need to listen to the inner voice inside yourself which tells you what could be a fantastic image and what wouldn’t. Think about the topic you are trying to capture, or think about the feeling that you want to portray, or consider the concept that you want to get across. The thought is to maintain it as simple as possible, but yet to maintain the elegance and fantastic thing about it. If you allow complications to creep in, the simplicity of the picture is lost.

Another integral part of photo shooting is the post-processing. There are numerous kinds of software’s on the market; many individuals usually like to use Adobe Photoshop for the different effects it could give. Keep in mind, just taking an image isn’t enough; you need to treat that picture properly to give it the maximum effect.

أحلام وامال وطموحات في العام الجديد 2011

هاهي الأيام تنقضي والساعات تنجلي وهاهي شمس العام 2010 قد ودعتنا حاملة معها عاماً مليئاً بالأفراح والأحزان والانجازات والإخفاقات في مختلف جوانب الحياة وهاهي شمس العام 2011 قد أشرقت حاملة معها الآمال والطموحات التي نأمل ونخطط لتحقيقها في عامنا هذا

هاهو الزمن ينفتح أمامكم ويمنحكم عاما جديدا أخر لتحققوا فيه كل ما تصبون إليه وتحلمون به

ولكن ومع كل ما يدور ودار العام الماضي أو بشكل عام خلال الأعوام الماضية من تغيرات ومشاكل ونزاعات ووووووغيرها تدفعني إلى أن أخبركم عن أحلامي للعام الجديد 2011م وهي ليست أحلام شخصية وإنما أحلام عامة ربما نختلف بها ولكن في الغالب نتفق ونطمح معاً لتحقيقها ومعظمها كانت من أحلامي للعام الماضي ولكن للأسف انقضى العام الماضي ومازالت في مخيلتي ودفتري ، ومن باب الأمل بالمستقبل القادم وبنا نحن كشباب وجيل التغيير أعيد ذكرها أملاً في تحققها هذا العام ، وهي تخص الموطن والمكان الذي نعيش فيه ونحتمي فيه ومنها

أن تتوقف تلك النزاعات والمشاحنات والمقاطعة بين الأحزاب والتكتلات السياسية والتي لا فائدة منها سوى خلق فتنة أهلية داخلية لن تحمد عقباها وأتمنى أن تركز هذه التكتلات على تنمية وبناء هذا الوطن الذي لن يتقدم ويتطور إلا بتعاون الجميع مهما كانت مناصبهم ومهامهم

ومن أحلامي أيضا الحد من الفقر السائد الذي نراه يزداد توسعا كل عام فإذا ما وجد الفقر فلا يمكن أن يكون هناك أي تقدم في أي جانب من الجوانب وأتمنى ولو الحد من انتشار الفقر فلن أقول القضاء على الفقر ، فالقضاء على الفقر يتطلب أعوام عديدة وعمل دءوب ومتواصل

ومن أهمها كذلك أن أرى اليمن الحبيب بيئة نظيفة يسودها الجمال والأمان وذلك من خلال أن أرى الشوارع نظيفة وأرى السماء صافية وأستنشق هواء نقي وكل ذلك لن يتم إلا بالتزام الجميع وجعل النظافة سلوك شخصي لا نحتاج إلى من يدلنا على برميل القمامة أو يعطينا نصائح عن النظافة وكذلك مع الزيادة السكانية فنجد زيادة المركبات التي تعمل بوقود الديزل ، ولذلك أملى الحد من وسائل المواصلات وخاصة باصات الأجرة التي  تنفث كل يوم في وجوهنا جميع الغازات الضارة التي تعمل على تلوث البيئة ولن تمنحنا سوى التوتر والعصبية ووجع الرأس والأمراض المزمنة وغيرهاوفي الأخير وليس أخيراً .. أحلامنا كثيرة ومنها الصغيرة والكبيرة ولا مجال لذكرها هنا ، ولكن حاولت قدر الإمكان أن اجمع وألخص أهم الأحلام والتي لو تحققت فإنها ستعمل على تحقيق بقية الأحلام  ، وها نحن اليوم في أوائل العام الجديد ، وبعد أن هنأنا أنفسنا وغيرنا ورسمنا أحلامنا وأهدافنا للعام الجديد ، يجب أن لا ننسى أن نحاسب أنفسنا ونتعلم من دروسنا الماضية لنزداد عزماً واجتهاداً لتحمل هذا العام بما فيه من أفراح وأحزان وما كتبه الله لنا فيه

أتمنى أن يحاسب كل شخص نفسه ويتذكر ما قام به خلال العام 2010م في مدرسته أو جامعته أو مؤسسته أو إدارته أو وزارته ؟

ليكون العام 2010م عام عمل وإخلاص للمهنة وإنجاز وبناء ونماء وتطور للوطن

وأتمنى لكم عاماً مليئاً بالنشاط والحيوية ومقربة من الله عز وجل ومزيداً من الانجازات في حياتكم العلمية والعملية

وشكرا لكل من شتمني أو جرحني فقد أعطاني درساً جيداً سيجعلني قوياً لمواجهة هذا العام ، وتحية شكر وإجلال وتقدير لكل من خدمني وأفادني وساعدني ورسم البسمة على شفتاي ، والمعذرة والمسامحة من كل من أسألت له أو جرحته بقصد أو بغير قصد ... وألف تحية وسلام إليكم أصدقائي وأحبتي

أدامكم الله لي أحبتاً وإخوةً وأصدقائاً ، وكل عام وأنتم الخير فيه

وهذه هديتكم بمناسبة العام الجديد

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السبت : 1/1/2011م

How Does It Feel to Be a Problem?

Being Young and Arab in America...

“As Moustafa Bayoumi argues in his provocative investigation, young Arab-Americans are still struggling to define their identities in a hostile environment and to cope with the governments distrust…despite what they have suffered and continue to endure, Bayoumi and his interview subjects still hope that America is a place where they can live in peace—and find justice, fairness, and freedom.”
—Francine Prose, O Magazine

“In How Does It Feel to Be a Problem? Bayoumi…gives twenty-something Arab-Americans the chance to talk about their victories and defeats.”
—The Wall Street Journal

“These are great stories about people who might be your neighbors, and Bayoumi delivers them with urgency, compassion, wryness and hints of poetry. You may walk away from the book with a much greater understanding of Arab-American life, but you'll feel that's simply because you've hung out with Bayoumi and friends, snarfing down Dunkin' Donuts or puffing on hookahs, talking about vital issues.”
—Salon.com 

“Bayoumi's book fascinates.”
—Deborah Douglas, Chicago Sun-Times

“Moustafa Bayoumi's How Does It Feel to Be a Problem? has an intimate feel, as the author listens closely to the dreams and realities of seven young Arabs living in post-9/11 America.”
—Dallas Morning News

“an indispensable guide…a well-written book on a subject that is often overlooked or treated as a side note to bigger problems, like the occupation of Iraq, Israeli aggression and civil liberties.”
—The Arab American News

“Bayoumi succeeds in presenting the reader with more than just a glimpse into these lives. One is right there with Rasha, a Palestinian-American teenager, who was detained along with the rest of her family without reason following 9/11. This first story is the most chilling as one can sense the frustration and dread emanating from Rasha’s story. I have heard about things like this happening but to actually read about 19-year-old Rasha and what she and her entire family had to endure is something else. Bayoumi’s decision to talk to Arabs from Brooklyn was a wise one as these stories are reflections from a group of people that not only have bared the brunt of discrimination, but call New York City their home and therefore, 9/11 affected them as it did most New Yorkers. By providing a book accessible to the masses, Bayoumi gives the Arab problem a very human face that other Americans can empathize with.”
—MediaandIslam.com

“Bayoumi offers a revealing portrait of life for people who are often scrutinized but seldom heard from.”
—Booklist(starred review) 

“In many ways, [Bayoumi’s] absorbing and affectionate book is a quintessentially American picture of 21st century citizens ‘absorbing and refracting all the ethnicities and histories surrounding [them].’ However, the testimonies from these young adults—summary seizures from their homes, harassment from strangers, being fired for having an Arab or Muslim name—have a weight and a sorrow that is ‘often invisible to the general public.’”
—Publishers Weekly (starred review) 

"The book’s title derives from a question posed by W.E.B. Du Bois in The Souls of Black Folk, and given the burgeoning of anti-Arab, anti-Muslim sentiments since 9/11, the author’s appropriation of it seems apt. [Bayoumi] poignantly portrays young people coming of age at a time when “informants and spies are regular topics of conversation…friendships are tested, trust disappears.””
—Kirkus Reviews

"Wholly intelligent and sensitively-drawn, How Does It Feel to Be a Problem? is an important investigation into the hearts and minds of young Arab-Americans. This significant and eminently readable work breaks through preconceptions and delivers a fresh take on a unique and vital community. Moustafa Bayoumi's voice is refreshingly frank, personable, and true."
—Diana Abu-Jaber, author of Origin, Crescent, and The Language of Baklava

“In relating the gripping personal stories of seven young Arab and Muslim Americans from Brooklyn in How Does it Feel to be a Problem, Moustafa Bayoumi reveals the feelings and frustrations of the current era's scapegoats, who can be demonized, profiled, and reviled without fear of sanction. His book shows both the dimensions of this new problem for American society, and the hopeful signs that this problem too can be overcome.”
—Rashid Khalidi, Edward Said Professor of Arab Studies, Columbia University and author of The Iron Cage

“Suspenseful storytelling and rich detail make How Does It Feel to Be a Problem? required reading for Americans yearning for knowledge about Islam and their Muslim neighbors in the United States. In a series of fascinating narratives about the horrors and conflicts young Muslim-Americans faced after 9/11, Moustafa Bayoumi has written a work that is passionate, yet measured, humorous, and above all enlightening.”
—Geneive Abdo, author of Mecca and Main Street: Muslim Life in America After 9/11

"With deft prose, acute insight and extensive reporting, Moustafa Bayoumi has produced truly engrossing portraits of young Muslim Americans about whom we usually hear only empty polemics. With a light touch, he gives voice to people who are referred to often and heard from rarely. The result is a sense of the tentative resistance of a besieged generation, as well as their determination to force America to be true to its promise even if it means confronting prejudice in its practice." 
—Gary Younge, author of Stranger in a Strange Land: Encounters in the Disunited States and No Place Like Home

Author: Moustafa Bayoumi

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